So basically it breaks down like this.
July 2016- I meet M’s Parents , L.H. & D.H., for the first time. From the start I knew I would need to keep emails, phone messages, voice mails. M was supposed to leave with them the morning of her parents 2 day visit w/daughter. Instead, Mrs.H would beat her daughter up in hotel parking lot and kick her out on the side of the road.
Nov 2016- Mr. H CONS me into flying to Nanaimo, with tickets he paid for and sent to me via email, to come and drive his 8.5 month pregnant daughter and her stuff through the mountains in late fall. Citing out of concern for his daughter’s well being. (was revealed 1 day later that he did it to get her off the Island and to appease the unreasonable Mrs.H’s extreme measures)
Nov.19,2017- Baby James in born on this day in Red Deer, Alberta. 5 days after, M was notified at the hospital that Family and Social Services were TAKING baby and she would NOT get her baby back. They acted upon FALSE testimony and out right LIES from her OWN parents. L.H. & D.H.. (I have emails where she admits later to doing this out of spite to hurt her daughter)
From That point on until Feb.22 0, 2017, Myself and M drove back and forth from Edmonton to Red Deer 2 times a week so she could comply with Social Services and see her baby for an hour per visit.
March 2017- After a rare moment in clarity and reason, L.H. & D.H. re-enter their daughter’s life, throw her a bit of money and tell her THEY will get baby James back for her.(To basically make up for what they had done and the pain they had caused) What was to take 8 weeks, turned into 7 months.
June 2017- After going through the courts to get baby James back, her parents suddenly tell their daughter they are NOT going forward with this process. Their reasons mostly was because someone saw me drop her off at her appointments. Seems harmless enough. You see they HATE me because I gave M a voice. I told her it was her god given right to live her OWN LIFE on her terms. This is the side of these people nobody sees and nobody knows. Let me explain.
From the first meeting in July 2016 her parents came into town like they were the new sheriff. At one point walking into MY families shop, and her Dad questioning me as to our last apartment ordeal which they had NOTHING to do with. I nearly lost my cool and basically telling him he better take a step back and watch how he is talking to me!! Who the fuck is this asshole telling me how to live and questioning my financial status. I stood up to these arrogant, manipulator’s of circumstance! Maybe they controlled M but they didn’t even know me and could/would NEVER control me! But for M is wasn’t/isn’t so easy. I had first insight into this in Feb 2016. When I first met M we were at my place just chatting about some random topic and then she began to tell me that she couldn’t let her parents know she DROVE. ??? Drove? You mean like ‘Drive a vehicle?’ Yup!..I know right. Why?? (What other question CAN there be?)
This is what I was told. She began to tell me how her childhood was. About forced EVERYTHING! Had to be her parents way or the extreme measures way! Her parents had basically instilled in her that IF she chose to DRIVE and have her own CAR that in their eyes they would see that as a sign of distrust and they would assume she was out ‘doing bad things’..(I bet by now you’re confused. Thinking maybe I am just wording or explaining it wrong,.I wish i was but I’m not) When they would call I had always understood that they KNEW where she was, and that they would almost certainly know she had to BE STAYING WITH ME. How else did they figure she was able to live in Edmonton, yet be able ravel to Red Deer twice a week all winter long to make her appointments? They sent her $300 every 4-5 weeks..that alone wouldn’t even cover Bus Tickets. I later found out I was to be ‘unknown’ in this journey. THEY actually that M was doing all these things on her own. The reality of it was this. My FAMILY embraced M from the get go. Like any other friend or family that comes into contact with MY family. They are always met with a hug, great company and gracious hosts. But not this set of unethical and vengeful intent parents. They never once even hinted to thank me or my family for taking care of M for the previous 16 months, unconditionally. And for No Cost.
So here we were less than a month away from Baby James being reunited with his Mom. That at the very least would be a major hurdle. But they were actually going to WITHDRAW their application because they found out she was WITH ME! All stemming from me NOT staying at their house when I came to visit in October of 2016.
But after nearly crushing their daughter’s hopes they reconsidered and I’m sure some sort of ‘forced’ deal was made to get them back into the ring to get Baby James. Although I cannot say for sure a deal was made. During this time was also when I was surprised by the overdue bill i got in April 2017 saying I owed ‘Maintenance Enforcement-$4243.00 CAD. To the mother of Baby James’, who had/has been under my care and cost ALREADY! So because I am in start up and didn’t have a lot of extra money, EVER, I lost my driver’s license. To get it back, I had to pay that bill then pay off ALL my fines before a new license was issued. The cost severely put me behind. The residual effects of THEIR extreme measure’s and tactic’s to gain control over other people’s lives and the life of their own daughter is staggering. Have you ever tried to get a government agency or court imposed judgement overturned? Or gotten someone who COULD help you …Listen…….If not for the $1500 retainer fee or cost to file. IT IS NEARLY IMPOSSIBLE!
Sept. 2017. After all the heartache and all the tears and all the emails and talks with Social Services that day had arrived. M and her baby were going home together!! Custody was awarded to L.H. & D.H. because I ALLOWED IT. The judge called me in the middle of the proceedings to make sure i understood what I was ‘Giving up’. I understood what I was doing. I did NOT want to do it. For fear of the ‘What If’s”. But to finally see Baby James with HIS Mom, M, It was the ONLY way. But I ensured by asking if it meant ‘forever’. And it did NOT. I could apply for MY rights back at any time. Her PARENTS AGREED! So for the first time EVER, M and Baby James went back to Qualicum Beach, B.C. with her parents where they would stay and I would find a way to meet and see the little boy I had come to love and miss. To this day I still have not held him, played with him or given the chance to love him.
Jan.2018- After travelling half way to Vancouver with the plan to receive help getting their, falls apart. A phone call takes place that sets off a focused and directed path to bring MY son HOME!
Feb 1,2018- ‘Can you pick me up at the airport?’ it was M. Before any other question is asked ‘where is Baby?’ She says she can’t talk right now but meet her there at this time. (she often NEVER answered a direct question. And I often knew what that meant) I would ask her 3 more times before she even left the island. ‘Where Is BABY!?’
48 hrs after picking up M without Baby James, (My heart sank and has been pounding ever since) i found out that her parents had done the unthinkable. Because of that phone call, where I voiced my hatred and sheer anger towards them for every thing they have done against M and myself and Baby James they KICKED HER OUT of their home. Because of their hatred for me. Separated Mother from her Son for the THIRD time in less than 2 years. All because Mom wanted her son to know his daddy. We had gotten in a few messenger video calls. He knew my face, my voice. And now he is alone with THEM!! M told me about how she told M to ‘break his spirit’ and to just let him cry in the dark’ She often would tell me about how her mom believes in Breaking a Child’s Spirit’ ..And it makes me SICK! Rageful! And that’s where he is ..right now.
M has relentlessly been trying to reach him through her parents. Do you think they would return a text? or a voicemail? Or answer a call? not a one. I asked her when her Dad drove her to the airport , ‘What was the plan at that point? To get Baby back.” Her reply”He didn’t. All he said was they think it’s best If M goes to Alberta to give her control freak Mom (D.H.) a ‘cooling down period’
Im mistaken, L.H.replied once. After M sent him a heartfelt text message wanting ANY word on Baby James. M asks “Does he miss me?’ His response “He’s pretty young to understand. He is happy with WHOEVER gets up to feed him”
Does anyone reading this post find that remark just disgustingly ignorant?? Uncaring? Unloving?
I am fearful for my son now. M and I believe they are looking to ‘give him up’ to another family!
I cannot allow this to happen. I won’t. THEY ARE THE MOST VILE and VENGEFUL AND UNLOVING people on the planet! They are UNETHICAL , UNMORAL, And they use their money to manipulate people and situations to suit their sick needs to belittle their own daughter and steal her/our baby not once or twice but now a THIRD time in less than 2 years!
Please if anyone knows an agency or has any contact information that could help please leave in the comments.
So now I have a almost 10 year old boy i haven’t seen in Lethbridge, And a 1 year and 4 month old boy who is further away now than ever with 2 mentally compromised people who hate his daddy. For NO REASON. Either way this is just the beginning for them. It’s about to cost them more than they EVER expected. People of Vancouver Island B.C.. Particularly the community of Qualicum Beach. The first house on the Left at Mill Road. That’s where my SON is! And he needs to be with his Mom and Dad, who LOVE him!!
For Ryder and James,